It's None of Your Business What Other People Think
(And Why It's Actually Rude to Try and Guess)

This one is one of my favourite phrases I tell every entrepreneur I work with:
"It's none of your business what other people think."
Read that again.
Let it sink in.
Because if you're in business, especially if you're in sales, this single mindset shift will save you hours of wasted mental energy and a whole lot of unnecessary anxiety.
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The Rabbit Hole Nobody Talks About
You've been there. I know you have.
You send a proposal. You make a pitch. You follow up with a prospect. And then... silence.
No reply. No feedback. Nothing.
And what do you do? You start spiralling.
"Did I say something wrong?"
"Maybe they didn't like my pricing."
"Perhaps they think I'm too pushy."
"What if they're telling everyone I'm rubbish?"
Sound familiar?
This is the rabbit hole. And it's deep, dark, and completely unproductive.
You sit there trying to decode someone else's thoughts like you're some sort of mind reader. You replay conversations. You re-read emails looking for clues. You construct entire narratives about what this person *must* be thinking about you.
Here's the problem: **you have absolutely no idea what they're actually thinking.**
None.
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The Truth: You're Not That Important
I don't mean that harshly. But it's true.
Your prospect isn't sitting at home, obsessing over you. They're not having long conversations with their partner about that email you sent. They're not losing sleep over your follow-up call.
They're busy.
They've got their own problems. Their own deadlines. Their own fires to put out.
Your product, your service, your pitch? It's one of about fifty things competing for their attention right now. Maybe a hundred.
That silence you're interpreting as rejection? It's probably just... life.
They got distracted. Something came up. They meant to reply but forgot. Their kid got sick. Their boss dumped a project on them. They went on holiday and your email got buried.
Their lack of response has nothing to do with what they think of you.
And even if it did, so what?
You can't control it. You can't change it by worrying about it. And you certainly can't read their mind to find out.
So stop trying.
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Here's the Twist: It's Actually Quite Rude
Now, this is the bit that might surprise you.
Spending all that time guessing what someone else is thinking? It's not just unproductive, it's actually a bit rude.
Think about it.
When you assume you know what's going on in someone else's head, you're making their thoughts about you. You're projecting your insecurities onto them. You're essentially saying, "I know what you're thinking better than you do."
That's arrogant, isn't it?
You're not giving them the benefit of the doubt. You're not respecting that they're a complex human being with their own life, priorities, and thoughts that have absolutely nothing to do with you.
Instead, you're making yourself the centre of their universe.
Spoiler: you're not.
So next time you catch yourself trying to decode someone's silence or second-guess their opinion of you, remember this:
Their thoughts are their business. Not yours.
Stay in your lane. Focus on what you can control. And give them the respect of not assuming you know what's happening in their head.
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Your Real Job: Do the Work
Right, so if you're not supposed to waste time mind-reading, what should you be doing instead?
Simple: the work.
Your job isn't to worry about what people think. Your job is to do enough consistent, quality work that you earn their attention.
Because here's the reality of sales and business:
- Most people won't respond to your first email
- Most prospects won't buy on the first call
- Most leads need multiple touchpoints before they take action
This isn't because they hate you. It's because they're busy and you haven't broken through the noise yet.
So instead of spiralling about one unanswered email, send another. And another. Follow up. Add value. Show up consistently.
Attention is earned through action, not anxiety.
The entrepreneurs who win aren't the ones who worry the least. They're the ones who work the most, despite the worry.
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How to Apply This in Sales (Practically)
Let's get tactical. Here's how to use this mindset in your day-to-day sales activity:
1. Set a follow-up schedule and stick to it.
Don't let silence stop your process. If someone doesn't respond, follow up in 3 days. Then a week. Then two weeks. Have a system and execute it without emotional attachment.
2. Focus on volume, not individual outcomes.
One prospect ghosting you doesn't matter when you've got twenty others in your pipeline. The more conversations you're having, the less any single one affects your mental state.
3. Separate rejection from silence.
No response isn't rejection. It's just... no response. Until someone explicitly says "no," assume they're just busy. Because they probably are.
4. Track your activity, not just results.
You can't always control whether someone buys. But you can control how many calls you make, how many emails you send, how many follow-ups you complete. Focus on what you can measure.
5. Ask better questions.
If you're genuinely unsure where you stand with a prospect, ask them directly. "Hey, just checking in: are you still interested in moving forward, or should I close this off?" Clarity beats confusion every time.
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The Freedom on the Other Side
When you truly embrace that it's none of your business what other people think, something shifts.
You stop seeking validation from every interaction.
You stop letting one bad conversation ruin your whole day.
You stop making excuses not to pick up the phone.
You start operating from a place of confidence instead of fear.
And confidence? That's magnetic. Prospects can feel it. Clients can sense it. It changes everything about how you show up.
The best salespeople I've ever worked with share this trait: they're not attached to any single outcome. They do the work, they make the asks, and they move on. They don't take silence personally. They don't construct stories about what prospects "must" be thinking.
They just keep going.
And that's exactly what you need to do.
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Your Next Step
If you've been caught in the trap of overthinking what prospects, clients, or even your competitors think of you: it's time to break free.
Start today. Right now.
Send that follow-up you've been putting off. Make that call you've been avoiding. Stop waiting for permission or perfect conditions.
The only opinion that truly matters in your business is your own. And the only action that moves the needle is the one you actually take.
Need help building the mindset and systems to grow your business without the mental drama? Let's talk!
To your success,
Grant










